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Denial Patterns

Read the Denial Pattern, then click on the downward arrow to read the corresponding Recovery Pattern.

  • In Recovery….I am aware of my feelings and identify them, often in the moment. I know the difference between my thoughts and my feelings.

  • In Recovery….I embrace my feelings; they are valid and important.

  • In Recovery….I know the difference between caring and caretaking. I recognize that caretaking others is often motivated by the need to benefit myself.

  • In Recovery….I am able to feel compassion for another's feelings and needs.

  • In Recovery…. I acknowledge that I may own the negative traits I often perceive in others.

  • In Recovery….I acknowledge that I sometimes need the help of others.

  • In Recovery….I am aware of my painful feelings and express them appropriately.

  • In Recovery….I am able to express my feelings openly, directly, and calmly.

  • In Recovery….I pursue intimate relationships only with others who want, and are able to engage in, healthy and loving relationships.

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