Control Patterns

Read the Control Pattern, then click on the downward arrow to read the corresponding Recovery Pattern.

In Recovery….I realize that, with rare exceptions, other adults are capable of managing their own lives.
In Recovery….I accept the thoughts, choices, and feelings of others, even though I may not be comfortable with them.
In Recovery….I give advice only when asked.
In Recovery….I am content to see others take care of themselves.

In Recovery….I carefully and honestly contemplate my motivations when preparing to give a gift.
In Recovery….I embrace and celebrate my sexuality as evidence of my health and wholeness. I do not use it to gain the approval of others.
In Recovery….I develop relationships with others based on equality, intimacy, and balance.

In Recovery….I find and use resources that meet my needs without making demands on others. I ask for help when I need it, without expectation.
In Recovery….I behave authentically with others, allowing my caring and compassionate qualities to emerge.
In Recovery….I ask directly for what I want and need and trust the outcome to my Higher Power. I do not try to manipulate outcomes with blame or shame.
In Recovery….I cooperate, compromise, and negotiate with others in a way that honors my integrity.